I agree. Of course everyone is welcome at King Arthur. Identity politics divide us and pit us against each other, but we should resist that pull. This is pandering and sad really.

Telling someone you are gay is not coming out. That is just loaded language designed to further divide us. It wasn't a secret. You weren't in the closet. When you came out, the people who knew and loved you cared. There might have even be drama. However when you tell someone new, it is just something they didn't know and they don't care. In an attempt to pretend like they care, they might say something stupid but that is as far as it will go. So you spouse is non-binary. No one cares. My youngest is gay. Do you care? Of course not. My sister is trans. Do you care? Did you assume? I am straight. Do you care? Even less, I imagine. Did you assume? Sexuality is just a small part of who we are. Above all else we are human beings.

And shouldn't it be just a baby shower, not a "gay baby shower?" After all the baby might not be gay. Or are you celebrating yourself and not the baby? A child not a political statement. My youngest daughter is gay but I don't think back to her baby shower as a gay baby shower. We invited people to her wedding, not to her gay wedding. When she was a preschooler she wanted to marry her boyfriend, and my other daughter (who is straight) wanted to marry her girlfriend. Go figure. They were children. Children are just children and very few of them will even dream to be the very thing they will grow up to be anyway.

Gay is not a baking style. There is no such thing as a gay baking, gay flying, or gay swimming. Don't let gay mothering be a thing either. Understanding your role in any given situation is a very important life skill if you want to do the next right thing. Every job, every vocation and every role comes with an ethos. In theatre the show must go on. In flying, passengers are sacrosanct. In motherhood, everything else comes second, even sleep, actually especially sleep. Just be a mother. Just be a baker. Just be gay. Then you will excel at all three.

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